Your life. Your answers.
You are the foremost expert on your own life. A single well‑phrased question can help you discover that expert within yourself. What you do with that discovery remains in your hands.
EMOTIONAL SUPPORT ONLINE
Your story.
A new perspective.
An attentive conversation that begins with you.
No rush. Space for what matters.
THE PERSON YOU WILL BE TALKING TO
Someone who listens.
Who I am and where my approach comes from
Psychology, emotions and human relationships are an important part of my work as a researcher and writer. I am interested in people at moments when simple answers no longer suffice: when they face difficult relationships, conflict, rejection, strong attachment, changes in their lives, or decisions whose significance goes far beyond choosing between two options.
My approach rests on the belief that a meaningful conversation requires, above all, a genuine interest in the other person. First, I listen to what they say and how they understand their situation. Only then do I ask questions that contribute something of value. This order is fundamental to me: it keeps the focus on the individual rather than fitting their story to answers prepared in advance.
I bring psychological knowledge, experience from my research and writing, and a broad interest in emotions and relationships. Above all, I bring the ability to ask questions grounded in what is actually being said. That knowledge provides the background; the person, their story and the meaning they give to their experiences always remain at the centre.
Curiosity about people.
Beyond the conversation, too.
My research and writing provide the background to our conversation.
FRONTIERS IN PSYCHOLOGY
DOI: https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2026.1686068
PMID: 41704405
PMCID: PMC12907179
In this paper, I present my own hypothesis about borderline personality disorder. It brings affective and autonomic processes together in a single theoretical model. The paper focuses on the links between emotional experience, the autonomic nervous system, interpersonal relationships and how people respond to particular conditions and stimuli.
My research interests focus on emotional processes, interpersonal relationships, psychopathology, personality disorders, trauma, and the links between psychological and biological functioning. I am particularly interested in how processes at emotional, interpersonal and biological levels can interact and, together, influence human experience and behaviour.
Research has also shaped the way I think. In science, a good answer begins with the right question. Defining a problem precisely reveals connections that are not immediately apparent and allows us to consider more than one explanation. The same curiosity and openness to different perspectives are important to me when talking with another person.
Research is an important part of my work, providing a broad foundation for understanding emotions and relationships. During a one‑to‑one session, however, I use that knowledge to support the conversation rather than as a ready‑made explanation of someone’s life. Every story has its own context and needs an individual approach.
A conversation that begins with the person
I offer one‑to‑one emotional support to people going through a difficult period, facing challenges in their lives or relationships, approaching an important decision, or seeking a calm conversation with someone outside their immediate circle. A session offers the opportunity to talk about what has been on your mind for some time, brings up strong feelings, is difficult to make sense of, or needs to be considered from another perspective.
The starting point is always the person and their story. We experience similar events differently because we bring our own experiences, values, needs, relationships, concerns and expectations to them. The same situation can mean entirely different things to two people, so a solution that worked for one person may be completely unsuitable for another.
That is why attentive conversation and well‑judged questions are central to my approach. A good question helps bring something previously overlooked into focus, put a feeling into words, or open up a perspective that makes your situation clearer. What matters most to me is that the answer comes from your own experience and has meaning for you.
AREAS OF SUPPORT
What matters.
As you see it.
You do not need to find the words for everything straight away. There is room for your whole story, not just one part of it.
What I offer support with
I offer one‑to‑one emotional support to people facing difficulties in their lives or relationships, or struggling emotionally. We can talk about a break‑up, conflict, feeling rejected, loneliness, loss of trust, communication difficulties, a life change, emotional overwhelm, a difficult decision, or something that has been on your mind for a long time and is occupying more of your everyday life.
The starting point may simply be a feeling of being lost that you cannot yet put into words. At first, you may know only that a situation needs attention, a relationship brings up strong emotions, or a subject keeps returning to your thoughts despite your efforts to focus elsewhere. Talking helps you put that experience into words and consider calmly what really matters.
There is particular value in talking to someone outside your immediate circle. Your partner, family and friends have their own emotions, expectations and beliefs about the situation. Their perspective can be valuable, but it remains connected to their relationship with you. A conversation with someone outside that circle gives you the opportunity to focus on your experience and what you are trying to understand, express or decide.
Relationships
Relationships are an area to which I give particular attention. Closeness to another person brings a sense of safety, acceptance, trust and belonging, yet relationships also give rise to some of our strongest emotions. Attachment, longing, disappointment, jealousy, anger, feeling rejected, fear of loss and loneliness can occur together, making the experience far more complex than it appears from the outside.
Someone looking in from the outside usually sees only part of the story. The person in the relationship knows its history: how it began, the shared experiences, important moments, plans, promises and disappointments, and everything that has made the other person significant in their life. A conversation about a relationship therefore needs room both for what brings closeness and for what has become a source of pain, uncertainty or disappointment.
It is important to recognise that we can experience seemingly contradictory feelings at the same time. Attachment can coexist with anger, longing with hurt, and a decision to make a change with sadness about what we are leaving behind. These feelings are part of human emotional life. They need space to be expressed freely before further decisions are made.
Support with relationships helps you become clearer about your needs, boundaries, expectations and what you really want from your relationship with another person. The better you understand where you stand, the more informed your next decision becomes.
Emotions
Our emotions show that a situation, relationship or event matters to us. Sadness, anger, fear, jealousy, longing, guilt and feeling rejected are part of human experience and always arise in the context of our own lives.
Talking helps you put that experience into words. What you previously experienced as tension, a rush of thoughts or a feeling you could not quite identify becomes more concrete once expressed. You begin to hear your own story differently because it no longer exists solely in your thoughts.
Conversation also gives your emotions the space they deserve. Rather than moving straight into action, you have time to consider what you are actually experiencing and what the situation means to you. Greater clarity about your own experience provides a firmer basis for the decisions that follow.
MY APPROACH
Attentiveness. Curiosity.
Your answer.
I do not try to fit your story to a ready‑made solution. First, I will focus on understanding how you see your situation.
First, I listen.
There is room for your words, your experiences and your understanding of the situation.
I ask with curiosity.
My questions arise from our conversation. They help bring into focus what has remained in the background.
You choose the direction.
The aim is greater clarity. You decide what the answers mean and what to do next.
Why questions matter so much
When people face difficulties, those around them often respond with advice. Family, friends and acquaintances try to help by drawing on their own experiences, beliefs and outlook on life. They suggest what they would do in a similar situation, which direction they consider right, or what seems to them the most reasonable solution. This usually comes from care, but it remains someone else’s view of your situation.
That is why I place greater value on questions than on ready‑made answers. A well‑judged question gives you time to reflect on your own needs, values, concerns and decisions. It helps you understand where you stand more clearly, notice something you have overlooked, and put into words what was previously only an intuition or a feeling you could not quite describe.
The questions I ask arise directly from our conversation: from what you say, the subjects you return to, what you spend time on, and what matters particularly to you. This makes each session individual, with questions that are relevant to the person and their situation.
A good question can stay with you after the conversation ends. It returns to your thoughts, prompts further reflection and helps you see your situation from a perspective you had not considered before. That is why an answer someone gives you and an answer you discover for yourself have very different value.
Your space.
Wherever you are.
Initial conversation
ONLINE SESSIONS
A quiet space. An online connection.
A conversation that follows your lead.
GETTING STARTED
A brief conversation to talk about what you are looking for and find out whether this kind of support meets your needs.
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Book a free sessionWhat to expect from a session
A session is a one‑to‑one conversation focused on what you want to discuss at that time. You describe your situation in your own words and at your own pace, while the conversation develops around what turns out to matter most to you. This keeps the session natural and grounded in your own experience.
I listen attentively and ask questions at moments that invite deeper reflection. Their purpose is to broaden the perspective, draw attention to something important, or help you put into words what was difficult to identify. Every question comes from our conversation, so each session remains individual and follows what matters to you at that time.
I also bring knowledge gained through research, experience as a writer, and a broad interest in emotions and relationships. This background helps me take a wider view and formulate questions more precisely, while the meaning of the answers remains yours to determine.
A session also leaves room for reflection, silence, a change of mind and the emotions that arise. Meaningful reflection takes time, so the pace follows the conversation rather than a need to bring each subject to a quick conclusion.
The aim of a session is greater clarity about your situation, your needs and the direction you want to take. You decide what to do with that understanding.
Before
we talk.
You do not need to prepare what you want to say or have a name for the problem. We can begin with what matters to you.
Complete the form to arrange a one‑to‑one conversation online, with space for your words and feelings, at your own pace.
The scope of the support I offer
I offer individual emotional support and psychoeducation through conversation. This service is for people who need space to reflect calmly on difficulties in their lives or relationships, or on difficult emotions. It is also for those who want to understand where they stand more clearly and find their own way forward.
I do not provide psychotherapy, make psychological or psychiatric diagnoses, or treat mental health conditions.
My research, published article, book and knowledge of psychology inform how I think and conduct conversations. The service I offer remains clearly defined as emotional support and psychoeducation.
If you are currently suffering from an illness, have a diagnosed mental health condition, or need an assessment, psychotherapy or treatment, please seek support from an appropriately qualified mental health professional.